Some wish to simply enjoy themselves; others prefer to spare themselves and their families consecutive traumas. Rarely do parents want to pass on such a legacy to their children.
In contrast, there are couples that choose to terminate their unions during these times, regardless of the consequences. Referencing my clinical practice, I have found 5 predominant reasons for such timely or untimely actions, depending on your perspective. I do realize that couples break up on wedding anniversaries, birthdays, and, unfortunately, when a partner is sick or hospitalized, but these do not represent the focus of this post.
Here I will center on those major holidays that are family-oriented and thus hold a ificance wider than that of the couple themselves. No doubt there are several more reasons people end relationships on family-oriented holidays, but I will leave those to my readers.
I do want to make it clear that I do not take a stand on when a couple should or should not end a relationship.
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Some couples need to separate, and this event could well be the best thing that has ever happened to them. I do, however, think that ending a relationship, especially a long-term or ificant one, tends to traumatize both parties. Adding this trauma against the backdrop of a family-oriented holiday might prove to be a double trauma that may produce severe symptoms.
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