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After several requests for my husband and i to give a bit of our story and let everyone know how things work with us, i decided to interview him to find out what he thinks about crps/rsd as a person that lives with it daily without physically experiencing it.
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Show Thre Show Posts. Go to My Mood:. Tips on dating someone who has RSD. I have started dating a very wonderful person that has RSD. Several times on a date, she has moved away and walked away for a short while and came back with either a hug, cuddle, or kiss.
She has not really explain too much about her condition, because I think she is afraid of scaring me off with her condition. Can anyone suggest about how I can learn more from her or tips about how to respond to her condition. I been responding as a nuertal tone, because I don't know what to say.
I want her to understand I am willing to date her because of who she is and the RSD is what makes her the person I want to date.
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If that makes sense. The best advice I can give you is to just treat her normal like you would anyone else. Be supportive if she needs support. If you see that she needs help with something just do it and don't make a big deal about it. Don't constantly ASK if she needs help because it will make her feel broken or "less than" As you get to know her you will get a sense of things that are difficult for her that you can help with and things that she is willing and able to do on her own.
Don't constantly bring up or ask her if she Dating someone with rsd doing okay or treat her like a china doll. Don't pressure her if she doesn't want to do something. She may not tell you that she's having a rough day but you should assume that there's a good reason for her not wanting to do Dating someone with rsd particular activity or go out on a certain day and suggest something else.
Give her space when she needs it and stay close when you can. It's a very difficult balance because you should be supportive but at the same time you have to treat her like a normal human being and not like she is broken. My boyfriend does a great job with this and I really can't even express how much it means to me that he has been so wonderful through all of this.
It's wonderful that you care enough about her to want to be with her despite the RSD and that you want to learn as much as you can about it. Do the research because it will give you a good idea of what sorts of things can trigger our pain or are more difficult as well as things that can help. But we're all different too so you'll have to learn about HER situation and the specifics of her needs. Dating someone with rsd may or may not be comfortable talking about her condition she's probably concerned about whining too much and bothering youand you'll have to respect that.
Just take in everything you can as things come up.
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More than anything though Everything else will work itself out in time. I have learned from my asperger's son that there is no such thing as a normal person. I appreacte the feedback you provided. My main concern was either over or under reacting to her needs. It was an interested response from her seeing me opening, closeing the door and helping with the seatbelt of my truck for her.
I think she thought at first I was treating her like a china doll, but that is how I treat my dates. Also thanks for the last tip, I did express to her that I do want to be with her, even if she feels really bad that she can not go out. The best thing I can tell you is try and familiarize yourself with the disease and then ask specific questions to that person. Good luck we are here.
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Originally Posted Dating someone with rsd Senathon. I was thinking, just talk to her, get to know her, ask about it, if she feels comfortable enough to share with you then she will. The forums are not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider. Please understand that being sick doesn't mean I'm not still a human being I don't feel well often times and I might not seem like great company, but I'm still me stuck inside this body.
I still worry about my kids and work and my family and friends, and I'd like to hear you talk about yours too. Sometimes I want to talk about my illness sometimes I don't, so please don't roll your eyes when I talk about my pain and please don't pressure me to "get it off my chest" when I just Dating someone with rsd to pretend it doesn't exist. Please Understand the difference between "happy" and "healthy". When you've got the flu you probably feel miserable with it, but I've been sick for years.
I can't be miserable all the time, in fact I work hard at not being miserable. So if you're talking to me and I sound happy, it means I'm happy.
That's all. I may be tired I may be in pain. I may be sicker than ever. Please, don't say, "Oh, you're sounding better! I am not sounding better, I am sounding happy.
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Tomorrow I may sound worse again. Please understand that being able to function for an hour doesn't necessarily mean that I can keep it up all day. Doing everyday things, that everyone else takes for granted, exhausts my resources and I need to recover. Imagine an athlete after a Dating someone with rsd. They couldn't repeat that feat right away either. With a lot of diseases you're either paralyzed or you can move. With this one it gets more confusing. Maybe today, I can handle work and home, tomorrow it may be one or the other but not both. There is actually a name for this it's called postactivity payback and it sucks.
So, please try to keep in mind that I don't function like everyone else and just because I can do it today doesn't mean I can do it everyday.
Please remember that the above paragraph can apply to just about anything, "sitting up", "walking", "thinking", "being sociable", and so on it can apply to everything that requires physical or mental effort. That's what a chronic pain illness does to you. Please understand Dating someone with rsd chronic illnesses are variable. It's quite possible for me, it's common that one day I am able to walk to the park and back, while the next day I'll have trouble getting to the kitchen.
Please don't attack me when I'm ill by saying, "But you did it before! If you want me to do something, ask if I can and I'll tell you. In a similar vein, I may need to cancel an invitation at the last minute, if this happens please don't take it personally. Please understand that "getting out and doing things" does not make me feel better, and can often make me seriously worse. Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy may cause secondary depression wouldn't you get depressed if you were always in pain and exhausted?
Telling me that I need some fresh air and exercise is not appreciated and not correct - if I could do it, I would. Please understand that I can't spend all of my energy trying to get well. With a short-term illness like the flu, you can afford to put life on hold for a week or two while you get well, But part of having a chronic illness is coming to the realization that you have to spend some energy on having a life now. This doesn't mean I'm not trying to get better. It doesn't mean I've given up. It's just how life is when you're dealing with a chronic illness.
I will go about the business of living, but I won't necessarily be happy about it either so please try to understand that there is a reason I'm a little crabby sometimes. I can't just hide in bed with my head under the covers because I don't feel good everyday. But I sure have tried to do just that. Please If you want to, you can suggest Dating someone with rsd cure to me, but please don't act as if it's going to be my salvation.
It's not that I don't appreciate the thought, and it's not because I don't want to get well.