Image: Thinkstock. We met online, chatted for awhile, and then exchanged s.
At the time, we were both single and not looking for relationships, so it became a friends-with-benefits situation. We never really brought each other into our lives, like meeting friends, etc.
He lives about half an hour away from me. W e hooked up the day before he posted this. I need help!
My birthday is next week; we 'd talked about getting together midweek. I am so angry that I somehow ended up being his freaking Becky with the good hair! I want to confront him, but I need advice on how to do this. Does he not know that I follow him? I would be pissed, too. When it comes to his girlfriend, he wasn't honest with you about having a relationship.
You mentioned that you had not let each other in to other parts of your life — introducing to friends etc.
You also cannot assume what the rules of their relationship are. No matter which way you slice it, there is clearly dishonesty on his part.
From yourit sounds like he is under the impression that the two of you are hooking up, not pursuing a relationship. But you also hooked up under the understanding that you were both single. Y ou might not want to hear this, but I think you need to let this one go.
Ask erin: help! i found out the guy i've been seeing has a girlfriend!
Even if you had a talk with him and expressed your true feelings, where would that leave you? He lied.
You trusted him on some level. Now that you know, act responsibly — both in terms of opting out of a situation that will surely end in tears for some if not all involved, as well as taking care of yourself and your feelings. Step away, take care of yourself, and, in the future, get clear with yourself about what you want from your relationships. If you have a question for me about love, sex, breakups, single parenthood, iPhones, toxic friendships, avocado toast, Siouxsie and the Banshees, or anything at all, me at rarelywrongerin gmail.
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We would go on dates from time to time, hooking up whenever we saw each other. I have strong feelings for him and would do anything for him. I just feel foolish. What should I do? I feel so confused, angry, ashamed, hurt, betrayed, and used. Should he have told you? But was there any established commitment between the two of you?
As for your feelings for him? This does not bode well for a long-term relationship. You can do better, I promise.
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