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This post is a revised version of a sermon I gave to the Community Unitarian Universalists in Brightonon May 20,
Good choice. You can understand those rules and still have no idea what your teenage Mormon friend is thinking. I want to explain a Mormon belief that is central to our beliefs that is responsible for just about every dating decision we make. Eternal marriage means that Mormons believe that if we are married with proper Priesthood authority in a Mormon temple then God will honor our marriage not just on earth, but also after we die and are in Heaven. They are the bright-line, never-compromise standards. Since Mormons strive to meet the goal of eternal marriage, they also make their own Mormon dating atheist standards to help them to stay chaste sexually pure.
S o I am 24 years old, and I've never had sex. I also don't drink. I don't smoke. I don't do drugs, and I don't drink coffee. I'm a Mormon. And I've lived in New York City for six years as a Mormon, and it is hard to be a Mormon here if Mormon dating atheist don't drink or if you don't do drugs, but it is especially hard to live in New York City if you don't have sex.
Because I'm young and I wanna have relationships, and I wanna play too and, like, date and stuff.
But unfortunately, because I don't have sex, the longest relationship I've ever been able to sustain is four weeks… and that was only because for two of them he was out of town. There's this huge part of me that wants to be considered sexy. But if you're not selling sex, you really shouldn't advertise, Mormon dating atheist so I don't really ever get to come across as sexy. But one time I was at this vintage boutique, and I came across this s slip. It was dark navy blue — lacy at the top and then silk — and it was the sexiest thing I'd ever seen. I tried it on, and I looked in the mirror, and I thought, Oh my gosh!
I am sexy! Who knew I could be sexy? And so I bought it.
I took it home, and I put it in a drawer, and no guy has ever seen me in it. But occasionally, late at night, I'll try it on and look in the mirror and think, I'm sexy!
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And I know that Mormons are notorious for saying no to things, and you would think as a person who says no to a lot of things, I wouldn't be any fun. But while I say no to some things, I try to say yes to everything else, which makes me a really enjoyable person.
I learned the power of saying yes when I was going to NYU. They used to have these career fairs, and I was a drama student, so they wouldn't even set up booths Mormon dating atheist us. But for all the business school students, they had tons and tons of booths with the coolest trinkets they would give away. And I discovered that if I said yes to all the questions they asked, I could get presents. They would ask, "Are you a Stern student?
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And I know that technically that's lying, and Mormons aren't supposed to lie by any means, but I figure I do everything else right so I can do that. And then another time I was walking by the Javits Center and someone said, "Are you looking for the paper convention? I thought, This is awesome! It all led up to the mother of all conventions. I had some friends in town at the Marriott, and we had breakfast. I glanced under the table and saw a badge, and it said, "Bob Barnett, 7-Eleven Convention. So I start mingling with people. I'm making friends, taking free Mormon dating atheist.
And I end up meeting the woman who's running the whole convention.
That’s only half the story
And I was like, "I go to conventions all the time, and this is so well organised. So that night I got all dressed up, and me and my three friends went on this cruise. It was 1, 7-Eleven employees and us.
And we start mingling. We dance. We get going in karaoke. And then they serve this four-course meal.
And at the end of dinner my friend turns to me, and he says, "Elna, I dare you to make a toast. Everybody shut up, and I said, "I'd like to make a toast to 7-Eleven for redefining convenience. Mormon dating atheist the thing that I love so much about saying yes is that where you start at the beginning of the day and where you end up can be two totally different places based on all the things that you say yes to.
But then there's this other side of my life, which is that I do say no to a lot of things. And with sex, the thing I've learned is it's one thing to say no to having sex with someone you've dated for two weeks. It's actually pretty easy because for me that would be kinda slutty to just say yes after two weeks. But it's a whole other Mormon dating atheist to say no to having sex with someone when Mormon dating atheist feel like you're in love.
I met my yes counterpart a year ago, and his name was Nick. And when I met him, immediately I was like, "You! We were walking by a movie set, and we decided to sneak on and pretend we were extras. And so we were extras in the back of all these scenes, and we ended up in the makeup department.
And they asked us what we needed, and at the same time we both said, "Black eyes! We had so much fun.
We just kept going on adventures. And we were dating. I didn't tell him I was Mormon, because I thought, You know Mormon dating atheist In addition to being Mormon, I am a lot of other things. But I really, truthfully didn't wanna tell him I was Mormon because I wanted to get to date him, and I knew that it probably wouldn't work out if he knew I was Mormon.
And so as casually as you can bring that up, a couple of weeks into dating him I said, "Oh, by the way… I'm Mormon. Can you be with an atheist? Can you be with a Mormon? And we kept going on adventures, and it was really, really wonderful. But then there were these grander things than we were that kept interfering, as much as we tried to ignore them.
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And I remember one of the bigger ones was when I found out he didn't believe people had souls. I was like, "What? Doesn't everyone believe that? I mean, religious or not, doesn't everyone believe people have souls? And he said, "No.
I don't believe people have souls. I can see it. I can hear it. I know it's there. And what does my soul have to say? I've been inside you for 29 years, and you've been ignoring me the entire time. So we kept dating, even though at this point I realised my soul mate didn't actually believe in souls. But I was willing to be OK with that.
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And then the sex thing came up, and he asked, "Are we gonna have sex? And I could tell he was starting to phase me out.
It's so interesting because every girl knows when a guy starts to phase her out, even if it's just a coincidence that he didn't pick up his phone. You feel it and you know. And so I started thinking, Why would he wanna phase me out?
What do you call it when you stop liking the person you’re dating?
It's because I'm Mormon and it's because I won't have sex. And then I started thinking, What if he's the love of my life, and I end up marrying a Mormon guy that I like OK, and I spend the rest of my life regretting this decision? What if he's right, and what if God doesn't exist, and then I'm making this sacrifice for this totally imaginary reason.
And then I started thinking about sex, and how when you're in love sex is Mormon dating atheist different. It almost feels like a natural progression of things. And I thought, You know, maybe I could have sex.