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I have recently got out of a long term relationship and am trying to move on and heal myself for the better. I feel that I am at a point where I am ready to have NSA sex with someone but find it incredibly difficult to approach the topic. I understand it is easy for a girl to do this, but as a guy, it is much harder to find someone to do this with without being too forward and possibly creepy.
I also recently met a girl who specifically stated that "I don't date or do relationships". I thought this was great and suggested to be friends and told her that I had recently broken up and was in no place for a relationship also. We exchanged s and she definitely does want to "hang out with me" but I'm not sure if it is as friends only or with the potential of being FWB.
How should I approach this? Would it be okay to be overly flirty over text? Do you simply ask someone if they are interested in NSA sex I find that awkward to be honest? As I have never had NSA sex before, should I let her know I am inexperienced or lay out some ground rules before anything happens? But if you Nsa or possibly fwb to try, you need to be open about it She may accept, or may turn you down. Nsa or possibly fwb women are insulted or annoyed by that request, so don't expect too much.
Since she already stated that she is not looking for a relationship, I see no need to spell it out and make it awkward. I also would not lay down the ground rules, that's also kinda weird and awkward.
Just spend time together and see where it goes. My suggestion is to just do what you do on a normal date, but obviously with it not leading to any emotional connection or deeper commitment. FWB does involve some emotional connection, in that you are also friends and spend time together outside of sex, whereas NSA is pretty straight forward, just sex. Think about what is it that you want.
Actually, most women who announce that they're not interested in a relationship are telling you they don't want to date you, they just want to be friends.
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So he can't assume that at all. I've told people many times when I'm not looking for a relationship if they express interest in me, and i was just letting them know we could be friends, but nothing more and definitely not looking for FWB either. It is odd that people feel comfortable engaging in physical relations with someone, but not in being comfortable talking about it. It is far better to discuss these things than make a serious faux pas socially, as in, she's just Nsa or possibly fwb you she doesn't want to date, then you make a physical move on her that could be REALLY awkward if she pushes you off her and launches into 'what are you doing, i told you i just want to be friends.
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I've told people many times when I'm not looking for a relationship if they express interested in me, and i was just letting them know we could be friends, but nothing more and definitely not looking for FWB either. Fair enough. I read it as she "doesn't do relationships", I'm not sure under what context did she say this, so it could be she just wants to be friends. In that case yes it would be a good idea to say what you are both looking for ie nothing serious to see if you are on the same. But I wouldn't suggest asking outright "do you want to have NSA? I don't think it has to be a long or awkward discussion.
Just tell her you'd be interested on seeing her very casually now and again on a no strings attached basis, and would she be interested in that or is she interested in a friends only situation? That will get your point accross and clarify what it is she is interested in. I've only done it once myself, but Nsa or possibly fwb were very open and up front about it. What I did was just throw in a little bit of Nsa or possibly fwb should I say it, sexual flirting and saw how she responded, she responded in the same way, and the rest is history.
Only thing is, when y'all set up that kind of arrangement, don't get pissed when she starts seeing someone. Most women will reject you Weed them out as quickly as possible, learn to identify red flags, and keep talking with new women, because you'll eventually find FWBs. Best advice although I would never use the FWB term out loud - this has nothing to do with being friends first or maintaining a friendship aside from the sex and some people will hang on to any "" "well he said he wanted to be friends -who knows it might be more someday Also make sure you are ok with the risk that she might choose not to abort a resulting pregnancy.
Seek out those who are fresh out of a relationship themselves and looking for rebound fling and just a little fun. You'll have the fun and mutually drift apart as you both heal and start back to looking for a real relationship. Be careful about women randomly telling you verbally that they are not looking for a relationship.
A lot of women out there mistakenly believe that Nsa or possibly fwb what all men want to hear and that that's something they need to say to get one into a relationship with them. In short, they don't really mean it except for the situation above, where she is fresh out of a break up or LTR and basically in the same boat as you. As for what to say, you don't need to get into too much awkward explaining.
A simple conversation that you are recently post break up and not looking to get serious is enough. If she is in the same boat, she'll get the message and it will be music to her ears. Haven't read the responses yet but when I was single and looking for NSA, the guys always took the cues from me. For one, I straight up asked him. I'd met him a few times in person and we were myspace friends weird I ed him on there and said "Hey, I know Nsa or possibly fwb not looking for anything serious and neither am I, so if you ever want to get together and just hang out, let me know.
With another, I sort of handled it the same way and we slept together a few times.
Never once did I use the term friends with benefits or booty call though. Well, not to their face anyway. So from a female perspective, I say there are plenty of girls out there who want this exact set up and are willing to say so as long as the guy isn't creepy.
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Don't go sending her pics of your junk and trying to get her to sext I had another FWB who wanted to sext with me when we weren't sleeping together--no thanks. When I wanted sex, I'd ask for it. Or whatever the kids are doing these days Snap Chat? Whatever that is? Anyway I don't recommend flirtiness that way.
Just hang out in person and be flirty then.
If it happens, talk about it afterward "Hey, this was fun. I'm not looking for anything serious and if you aren't either and ever want to just get together, just let me know.
Cut ties and let her learn her lesson about herself and what she can handle--so long as you haven't led her on anyway. Most FWB relationships have an expiration date though so be aware of that. It may not last a very long time and if emotions come involved at all, end it immediately. Ground rules work best. You better not get any feeeeeeelings for her either because she's clearly stated "she doesn't do relationships.
We do hug each other but do not extend to the point of making out. I think if I put my mind to it I won't be able to fall in love with her. I am really just looking for some physical intimacy to be honest. Perhaps I should try simply drinks on a Friday night or similar and express my intentions then. If you just come right out and say "what be bump buddies," when she's talking about her dog or something, yea that's awkward.
Asking her for drinks is a good idea but make your feelings to her know. Or be passive aggressive about it I'm breaking an ena rule here but hear me out. Something like "yea I'm not looking for a relationship either. Just someone to get together with a few nights a month or something. Point taken, unless she's completely oblivious. I Nsa or possibly fwb think "politic" has a real place or purpose in that situation -particularly such an inaccurate euphemism.
While I like the idea of asking "Do you want to hang out sometime? To me, an open ended question with no specific date Nsa or possibly fwb time puts pressure on her to more likely reject my advances. I think he meant "politically correct". I also think it is relevant to this conversation as I think the distinction between the two is pretty blurred.
This is just my opinion, but, if a woman wants to sleep with you, she will.
The lack of a specific date and time won't change anything; if she wants you, she'll find a way to make it work. But, if you feel more comfortable with specifics, go ahead and throw them in there. No, I didn't mean that. I meant more like "polite". Either way and I don't think the distinction is blurred.
I think if you're going to have intercourse with someone where intercourse is the only purpose for which you are meeting in person then using a euphemism, especially one that suggests that you two Nsa or possibly fwb "friends" seems almost but not quite If the two people feel comfortable with the arrangement I don't think the euphemism is necessary.