As though any of this is actually positive. You give gloves… A bad name. Not funny. I have a of issues with these memes, but let me stick to the main one. Also, since I have sons, I shall refer to that particular meme. Solidarity, sibling-of-either-gender!
My sons are currently 6 and almost 3.
They are not even close to dating age. Nevertheless, I take exception to this meme for the inferences it makes about them, and about me. Or forties. It is my job to teach my son responsibility and self-respect, and prepare him to make his own well-informed decisions. But if I absolutely, positively must create a list of rules for dating my son, it looks something like this:.
Filed under Life With KidsOpinion. Tagged as childrendatingdaughterfacebookmemesmotherhoodparentingrulesson. I hate those memes! Your rules rock. Those are rules I can get behind. Welcome back! This post shows us that in the best way possible.
2. if you text it, i may read it.
The whole internet world could use some of this wisdom and straight talk. Unfortunately, it seems that the juvenile level of what is supposed to be entertaining is ubiquitous. People lots of times just mindlessly re-post such gibberish out of boredom or routine.
It may be that young people find this sort of rebellious dribble entertaining, and that is a fairly universal experience.
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If normal adults find it appalling, teens usually find it fascinating. The problem with this batch is that it perpetuates and celebrates the wrong values in a clear way. I raised five daughters and a son to adulthood, and when they started dating, these posters were not on their walls. Instead, I tried to be encouraging to each of them to consider carefully what choices they made, and let them know that no one who really cared about them would not need to worry about dating any one of my children.
If they thought they needed help or if someone treated them poorly, we would be there to help. We encouraged them to bring the person they wanted to date to the house so we could meet them, and as long as they treated each other with respect and fulfilled their end of the dating arrangement, that it was up to them if the date got another chance.
There were a few young people who we had concerns about who wanted to date one of our children, but as long as the terms that were agreed to were met, we mostly let them decide who got the nod. Your one point really hit the nail on the head.
Warm regards……John H. I agree that dating in the modern day is a difficult time for parents — AND for Rules of dating my son.
1. before you date him, you’ll have to get past me.
Actually, I think dating is difficult, regardless of age. But the crux of the matter for me is that these memes remove any responsibility from the dater themselves, and puts all the responsonibilty on the datee and the parent. That said, I can be a rather intimidating person, even while being perfectly civil, and I fully plan to use that if the need arises. I knew I was doing something wrong. I shall immediately endeavour to be less reasonable. Or not.
And this? As a young male, I agree with you.
It seems like these posters are looking for a reason not to like the person who is dating their son or daughter. You hit the nail on the head, have fun, be safe and just have respect. Thanks for commenting. As I did, because my parents certainly would never have set any rules for who I dated.
And I definitely made some mistakes, which I learned from and, frankly, I had some fun in the process of learning, too. It is possible since kids are actually thinking human beings — contrary to what these rules imply to thoroughly enjoy something and still decide that it is not wise to do it again.
Rules for dating *my* son:
I absolutely agree. I like your rules much better. Welcome back, btw! This is a world where people say too much and mean too little. Jokes often go too far.
5 rules for dating my son
The meme is about control. Of course you did! And that is, of course, my point.
Maybe these people are joking — poking a certain amount of good natured fun at themselves. Or maybe not. The trouble with these types of memes is that once they worm their way into pop culture, even if they start as a joke, they take seed there. You have to be carefuly with pop culture. Somehow the perspective shifts and morphs into something quite fearful. I also fear mob mentality to the same degree. I think you would make a wonderful sentinel, Jo. The fantasy kind who protect what is sacred and good about life and sound the alarm for what threatens it. Very true.
Possibly more dangerous, because memories even shared memories tend to romanticise the past. The Internet was poorer for your extended absence my friend. Just pray I manage to instil that self respect, responsibility and ability to make well-informed decisions…. You have self-respect, act responsibly, and make well-informed decisions. And nothing is more powerful in your parenting repertoire than modelling the behaviour you want to see. First, your sons are tots, most intelligent people agree that your opinion on this wont be formed until they ARE dating. But yes by all means continue living in a fantasy world.
Out of curiosity, what exactly is your point here? Or that all teenagers are incapable of making choices and living with the consequences? You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Google. You are commenting using your Twitter. You are commenting using your Facebook .
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Jo Eberhardt is a writer of speculative fiction, mother to two adorable boys, and lover of words and stories. She lives in rural Queensland, Australia, and spends her non-writing time worrying that the neighbour's cows will one day succeed in sneaking into her yard and eating everything in her vegie garden. RSS - Posts. RSS - Comments.