At some point in our lives we all feel jealous or envious towards other people, but it is when we start acting on those jealous feelings that it becomes unhealthy and potentially dangerous. Since the dawn of time, jealousy has been as prevalent an emotion as love. It is a central and common theme in many films, fiction Shakespeare called it the green-eyed monsterand other art forms throughout history.
Biblically, jealousy is a common narrative, too. Think about Cain and Abel, the two sons of Adam.
Cain killed his younger brother in a jealous rage. Perhaps not quite as romantic to talk about or express if you possess it, but it is inevitably something we all feel—to some degree—but prefer to keep silent about.
When we become consumed with the pervading idea that we lack things, we slowly become blind to what we already have, and we become ungrateful for those gifts. It seeks to prevent loss.
But is jealousy really that bad?
What is the story you tell yourself? Do you believe that you are unlovable and soon your partner will find you out?
What is at the core of your jealous feelings? No one wants a jealous partner, sibling, colleague, or friend—and nobody enjoys feeling jealous or living out his or her jealousy with bizarre and hurtful behavior.
Nothing can ruin a relationship faster than jealousy. The ever-pressing question is: How can we overcome it?
Jealousy comes from your unmet childhood needs
Be emotionally intelligent with yourself first and those that are important to you, because no one can read your mind. If you are feeling jealous, be open with yourself about your intentions. Do you feel more deserving to be in that new position at work? Do you have cause to think your partner is cheating?
Have you been cheated on before? Very often we are unaware of what is going on subconsciously.
It is up to you to find the root of your insecurity and then address it. Jealousy comes out of a lack of trust; lack of trust in the process of life, in your partner, in yourself. Lack of trust breeds insecurity, which What causes jealousy jealousy; we stifle these feelings because they are uncomfortable. If the green-eyed monster shows his face, remember that jealousy can be an extraordinarily powerful tool if we use it to propel ourselves to get what we most desire.
Instead of being afflicted with envy, rather use this powerful energy of envy to help you work towards what will actually bring you more of what you desire What causes jealousy less of what you feel you lack. Emotions are simply something we experience, but we do not have to become them. See the jealousy you feel as a al that something in you warrants your awareness, bring it to your consciousness and use it to bring about positive change; be it in your relationships with yourself or those you hold dearest to you.
Monica is one of the founders of Raising Malawi, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping orphans and challenged youth throughout Malawi.